How do you know when to let go of a significant other? A love? A relationship? A friendship? A connection? Ie: When is it really over?
One of two times.
1) When you don’t care enough to keep trying. It isn’t worth it to you anymore. You’ve lost too much in the relationship and can’t bring yourself to make a change in order to make it work. That means you don’t care enough. Time to move on.
2) When you’ve done everything you could do to make it work. I know a lot of people feel sadness when this happens. They think, I did everything I could, and it wasn’t enough.
I look at it the other way. When you’ve given all that you can to a relationship, everything except disrespecting yourself, and it still isn’t enough, that’s when you should let go of it. Take comfort in this. You did everything you could do, compromised and sacrificed, and if it still wasn’t enough, that really isn’t your fault. Sometimes it really is the other person who cannot meet you half way.
Maybe it really isn’t you, it’s them.
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ugh. truer words have never been spoken. I am right on the number two train. You really do end up 'what if'-ing yourself to death. It's easy to find your own faults, and I totally agree, sometimes it really isn't you. Seriously, keep 'em coming, love the post.
ReplyDeleteI am the queen of hanging on! Wow, you don't even know it! But it is sad when you've done everything and it's still not enough, even past the point of disrespecting yourself, because maybe he'd come around. But nope.
ReplyDeleteLetting go sucks!